19 Real Questions for Compatibility

For years I found myself in the dating game, going on Hinge date after Hinge date, feeling like I was looking for love in all the wrong places. People approach the dating scene from all angles. There’s the casual dater, the semi-casual dater, the one looking for something serious, the other one looking for a rebound, and it goes on and on. 

Once I was past the initial post-college glow though, trying to understand what it was that I was really looking for took me a little bit of thinking. Once you get past the small talk and the surface-level stuff, you really want to understand the other person on a much deeper level. 

After plenty of time thinking about what actually mattered to me, I came up with a quick little list. Starting airy and playful, I get into some really thought provoking questions that help me genuinely understand the person across from me, their dreams, vulnerabilities, and values.

I realized that I wasn’t looking for love in all the wrong places, I was just asking all the wrong questions. 

Here are 19 questions to really get the conversation turned up and find if they’re compatible for you.